First of all, there are different versions of Christians as not everyone understands the full meaning of being a Christian. A full faith Christian will have their main priority being their relationship with God. They see their soul (essence of who they are) as created by God for God and eternal. Therefore their soul will live on forever either being in a relationship with God (Heaven) or without being in a relationship with God (Hell). They see Jesus Christ as Saviour and Lord and believe in a spiritual realm which transcends the physical.
People generally fear what they don’t know or don’t understand so when discussing a relationship with a Christian it is important that you learn to understand each other. The first thing I noticed about him as a Christian was how polite and respectful he was towards me. Although he has accomplished many achievements throughout his life, I found his nature to be very humble.
When we went on our first date together, he portrayed a calm confidence about himself. Like he knew who he was, what he was here for and where he was going. This also helped me to be more comfortable in my own skin too when I was around him. He was proud to be a Christian and very open about his church, friends and even past girlfriends, by sharing what he had learned from them to become the man he is today.
His way of life was initially a bit confusing for me. One negative point that I personally found was that the most important thing in his life is being a relationship with God or Jesus Christ. I often wondered why I couldn’t be the most important person in his life.
Having this relationship with God being most important, didn’t mean that he valued me less. I learned that it actually increases a Christian’s capacity to love others more with the stability to be in a long term relationship.
Another negative point that kept bugging me regarding should I date a Christian or not, was because he went to Church on Sunday mornings when I wanted to plan a day out together. This is important to them as they feel being around fellow Christians is being around family. This is also where they are called to encourage one another in this faith and a celebration of what Jesus has done.
Should I date a Christian when our view on the purpose and meaning of life may be different?
I found out that a Christian views this purpose and meaning of life as developing a healthy and fulfilling relationship with God first, and then developing a healthy, fulfilling relationship with others. So they are generally learning about how to be a better person and partner in a relationship.
Should I date a Christian who believes in an eternal soul?
Depending on how you want to view an eternal soul as to whether that would be a positive or a negative when dating. I found it to be a positive though because it teaches patience and priorities. But if you have different views on eternity, it is likely that the Christian will want to change your mind. This can cause conflict in the relationship, unless you can see that this is not about changing you, but because they want to spend eternity with you.
Should I date a Christian who sees Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour as essential to having a relationship with God?
Jesus as Saviour means that nothing we can do ourselves can earn us God’s love or take it away. Our relationship with God is accomplished completely through what Jesus has done for us. This produces a balanced view of others and ourselves in that we are not better than anyone else, we all need Jesus equally. In relationships this enables the capacity for grace and forgiveness and the ability to completely be yourself.
Jesus as Lord means that our life is not primarily about us but about God. A Christian seeks to do God’s will instead of primarily their own will. This may cause conflict when it comes to planning relationship finances, time, etc. in the future.
Should I date a Christian when they see the spiritual realm as two opposing forces
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