The profound question of all times: is it possible to love a spouse who has become an enemy? Would be there any payback for all the efforts made? In the first years of marriage we often experience the feelings of hate. We exchange with the deep offensive words of complaints, accusations and anger. As time goes on we accumulate all this negativity and resentments, unsaid words, undone things and repressed feelings. And we begin to hate our spouse.
Love is a choice. We must be conscious enough to accept our differences, negotiate our problems and learn to live with it peacefully. But often what happens is the opposite. We live by default and we choose to react and let the unconscious approach ruin our marriages. The bottom line here is it’s all about being eager and consistent enough to learn new ways of talking and discussing the differences without condemning each other and without exchanging with the harsh words and collecting the resentments. Then your marriage will be saved. Making decisions together, requesting things instead of demanding them, appreciating instead of taking for granted, valuing each other dreams and expectations, satisfying the needs, healing the wounds, embracing the differences instead of criticizing each other for being different, building reciprocity
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